Thursday, August 14, 2008

Layan Jangan, Lawan pun Jangan

Article from Saifulislam.com..Link Here!

“Ustaz, bagaimanakah caranya untuk saya mengelakkan diri daripada bercinta semasa belajar? Apakah kaedah yang boleh digunakan?”, tanya seorang peserta kepada saya di dalam ceramah Aku Terima Nikahnya, anjuran Nisa’ WP tempoh hari.

“Oleh kerana kita sudah berbicara tentang kuasa cinta, maka saya berpandangan, cinta tidak boleh dilawan dan tidak boleh dilayan. Untuk menjadi mangsa kuasa cinta, tidak perlu melayan cinta, sebaliknya melawan cinta juga sama kesannya”, saya memberikan jawapan.

Saya bukan Profesor Serba Tahu yang ada jawapan untuk semua soalan. Maka jawapan-jawapan saya lebih kepada perkongsian. Mana yang baik, jadikan teladan. Mana yang buruk, jadikan sempadan.


Soal melayan cinta, memang tidak sukar melihat akibatnya. Sudah banyak kali saya perkatakan sebelum ini berkenaan kesan melayan cinta tanpa kebarangkalian cinta itu mencapai perkahwinan.

Tetapi soalnya kali ini ialah perbuatan melawan cinta.

Peserta tersebut bertanyakan kepada saya, apakah dengan mengelakkan diri daripada mendengar lagu cinta termasuk nasyid cinta, maka dirinya boleh terelak daripada terjebak ke dalam cinta.

Hakikatnya, cinta tidak perlu dilayan atau dilawan. Hanya dengan mengingatinya dengan cara apa sekali pun, seseorang itu sudah pun duduk di bawah pengaruh cinta. Mengingati cinta lalu melayannya, ada akibat yang kita sedia maklum. Mengingati cinta lalu melawannya, juga ada kesan yang tidak baik.

“Macam mana cara orang melawan cinta?”, saya bertanya.

Peserta tersenyum-senyum. Begitu juga dengan penyoal.

“Bercakap kasar dengan lelaki atau bercakap pedas dengan perempuan?”, saya mengemukakan cadangan tentang cara biasa melawan cinta.

MELAWAN CINTA

Biasa benar saya bertemu dengan muslimat yang mahu melawan cinta, bercakap dengan lelaki seperti seorang askar bertitah kepada anak buahnya. Kalau sekali pun al-Quran menganjurkan perempuan supaya jangan melunakkan suara ketika bercakap dengan lelaki ajnabi, tidak pula sekali-kali al-Quran mengajar alternatifnya begitu.

Cakap biasa sudahlah.


Jika sudah biasa bercakap kasar dengan lelaki kerana kononnya sedang memerangi cinta, lama-lama sudah bercinta dengan suami pun masih terbiasa bercakap kasar. Itu penangan melawan cinta.

Sama juga dengan yang lelaki.

Kalau melawan cinta itu caranya ialah dengan me’laser’ perempuan, bercakap yang pedas-pedas hingga teresak-esak setiap perempuan yang berurusan dengannya, hati-hati! Jangan pula selepas berkahwin nanti pun, bermulut pedas kerana pengalaman bujang menentang cinta, lebih lama dari pengalaman kahwin menyuburkan cinta.

MENGELAK CINTA

Habis, apa caranya untuk mengelakkan diri dari bercinta?

Oleh kerana lawan pun kena, layan pun sama… maka cara terbaik mengelakkan diri dari cinta di luar masa, ialah dengan MELUPAKANNYA.

Cara untuk melupakan cinta bukanlah dengan memikirkan cara melupakannya. Itu bukan lupa, tapi mengingati cinta secara melupakannya!

Sesungguhnya kaedah terbaik untuk melupakan cinta, ialah dengan menyibukkan diri dengan hal-hal lain yang lebih sesuai dengan masanya.

Sibukkan diri dengan pelajaran dan pengajian seoptima mungkin.

Sibukkan diri dengan kerja-kerja persatuan, aktiviti kemasyarakatan dan lain-lain kegiatan yang bersifat “memberi”.

Sibukkan diri dengan kerja dakwah, kerana dakwah bukan boleh berhasil terus dengan kesediaan. Ia memerlukan latihan, pendedahan, proses buat betul dan buat salah… dan zaman pelajarlah masa terbaik untuknya.

Apabila tiba masa untuk berumahtangga, barulah masukkan cinta dalam agenda ketika diri sudah pun biasa dengan kesibukan, iaitu realiti sebenar kehidupan yang jauh dari angan-angan.

ABU SAIF @ www.saifulislam.com
56000 Kuala Lumpur

Friday, August 08, 2008

Ummah Films Video Removed - Copyrighted? JOKE!

Article from ummahfilms.blogspot.com


About an hour ago, I get an email from YouTube notifying me that my video "How I converted to Islam" has been removed due to Copyright violations. I emailed YouTube today about the error and asked them to review the video and verify if any copyrighted rules were violated.

So I'm thinking to myself, "wow...I guess the videos are really making an impact". First, they tried to flood the comment section with negative comments by making up lies about Islam but that didn't really work. Then, they tried making counter videos challenging me to respond but I refused to fall into their trap of useless arguing (I much rather discuss with sincere people rather than argue with ignorant people). So now, they're trying to claim copyright over my material which is hilarious because I don't use even use any audio or video from outside sources. If you watch my videos, its just me sitting in my chair behind a blank wall. What did they copyright? my chair? my wall? haha..

The fact that such losers put so much effort trying to stop the videos tells us that the videos are making an impact Alhamdulillah. I'm not upset but rather find it humorous that people have so much free time to worry about my videos. My videos have been uploaded by Yusuf to over 20 websites and they are broadcast on TV in the middle east and in the UK on a weekly basis (good luck on stopping that). Plus, as long as people don't edit the videos, I've allowed FREE distribution of them, which means that people can upload and videos to websites, blogs, and even show it on TV. In results, the videos have spread to millions and millions of people. So for those who are working hard trying to stop the spread of these videos, we'll... you got your work cut out for you.

By the way, I hope to do another series of videos after Eid InshAllah so I guess I'm going to continue making work for them hahahaha....

Thursday, August 07, 2008

Keeping 'emoness' in check..

I came across a topic while surfing the net "Teens:Are We More Emo These Days?"..

Thinking back, the most emo I’ve been was during my secondary school days. That was also the period when I was at my most rebellious and carefree state. Not to the point of causing nuisance though. Moderately rebellious. Thankfully, most in my click of friends know where to draw a line between what’s ok and what’s too much. That was also the period where I've seen people who seemed decent and quiet in one semester, make a 180 degree turn and become the total opposite the next. That’s a little outtake about my secondary school life. It was the period of confusion, overly emo, teenage angst and raging hormones.

Now the question, are teens more emo these days? The term ‘more emo’ is used probably because we all generally can be emo. Yea, you too Mr. I’M-NEVER-EMO?!...never konnon..It’s just a matter of how much.

I feel that the answer to that is not so important. What’s more important is to highlight what will be the impact if it is really true that youths are more emo these days and the importance of youths keeping their emoness in check.

We know that the strength of an ummah or a nation lies in its youths. The stronger the youths are, the better it is for the nation and its future. The number one cause for being in an emo state is obviously the four letter word called LOVE. When a teen who naturally falls in love explores it, love blossoms into a relationship, then for many, the relationship falters, then blossoms again with another partner, then falters again. For others, who fall short on the smooth and suave personality, love tragedies take place and those who can’t manage their emotions well, become excessively emo.

When this happens, the malay comedic saying goes,”Makan tak kenyang, tidur tak lena, mandi tak basah” Feeling high and drunk in love, the teen sees his/her significant other everywhere, in his food, in his book, on the face of the bus driver and so on. Being out of love or in a one-sided obsessive love (shiok sendiri) the same goes and the spirit of the youth falters making him waste precious time and lose focus on things that matters more in his life. And this goes for all, regardless whether the person is a law-breaking youth or a promising top scholar.

Many would not agree with me but I’m a staunch believer in the importance of controlling feelings of love and to act upon it only after marriage. Why not? Does Islam permit intimate, loving relationships before marriage? But that would be another story altogether. However it would be the best way in keeping emoness in check. It keeps us in the reality mode. Most pre-marital relationships don’t last and contributes to the society in a more negative rather than a positive way.

I recall reading about an event which happened back in history about the effects that the strengths of youths could yield upon a country. A non-muslim ruler was planning to conquer a Muslim country. Before that, he sent a spy to gather information on the personality of youths in the country. So the spy went and came across a youth, sitting at the sidewalk crying. He asked the youth what had happened. And the youth replied that he had just lost to his friend in an archery practice. Soon the spy went back and reported his findings to the ruler. The ruler decided that the time was not ripe to try conquering the country. Many years later, on similar regular missions the spy came back and reported a different find. He found another youth crying on the sidewalk. This time, the youth had cried because he had just broken up with his lover and was broken-hearted. The ruler gleefully declares that the youths in the country had weakened and it was finally time to gather their forces and begin their assault. The ruler fought hard and became victorious. The long standing Muslim-ruled country fell in a short time along with the declination in the strength and spirit of their youths.

Being in an overly emo state will never allow youths to come even close to striving for the cause of not only Islam but for other aspects of his life as well.

Today, the youth community faces bigger challenges to escape from the emo saga as they are constantly fed with influences from everywhere that contributes to the possibility of being in an emo state with non-stop music to movies to tv series. It would still be ok if they indulge in it once in a while, for leisure. But when entertainment and the same goes for love, becomes the number one priority and as a result, causes them to be influenced by the non-Islamic culture, blinds them about the differences between what's ok and not ok as Muslims and turning them into Emo teens, that will be the beginning of the end of the healthy, motivated and progressive youth we all hope for.

Syabas Kepada Mufti Perlis

entry from msomelayu.blogspot.com

Bicara Pagi
Syabas Kepada Mufti Perlis

BARANGKALI saya adalah antara orang-orang yang merasa lega apabila membaca laporan Mufti Perlis, Dr Mohd Asri Zainul Abidin tidak bersedia untuk menjadi calon BN pada pilihan raya kecil Permatang Pauh yang akan diumumkan esok.


Lega bukan kerana bimbang beliau akan kalah ditangan Anwar Ibrahim ataupun beliau akan mengancam Anwar, tetapi lega dan senang kerana dunia dan umat Islam masih lagi boleh memiliki beliau. Ilmu yang beliau miliki amat diperlukan untuk membantu umat Islam negara ini.

Kalau beliau terjun ke dalam kancah politik kedudukannya tidak dipandang semulia seperti hari ini lagi. Bila menjejak kaki ke kancah politik beliau tidak dapat elakkan diri daripada condong kepada parti yang dianggotainya. Beliau juga tidak akan dilihat bebas untuk berkata-kata berdasarkan kebenaran lagi.

Kalau beliau menyertai Umno misalnya beliau tidak lagi boleh mengkritik silap dan salah pemimpin Umno. Beliau tidak lagi dapat membaca ayat-ayat Quran dan Hadith mengikuti sepatutnya sebaliknya kena baca ayat-ayat yang menyenangkan orang dan diambil sekerat-sekarat.

Minggu lalu beliau menegur sikap PM Abdullah Ahmad Badawi yang meletakkan kalungan bungan di Tugu Negara.


Cuba kalau beliau menyertai Umno beliau tidak akan 'boleh' berbuat begitu lagi. Beliau hanya kena mendiamkan diri saja. Banyak ulama dan ustaz dalam Umno tahu hukum apa yang dilakukan Abdullah dan perdana menteri sebelum ini tetapi seorang pun tidak berani menegurnya. Mereka sanggup bergulamang dalam dosa secara bersama.

Begitu juga kalau beliau menyertai Pas. Teguran kepada Nik Aziz Nik Mat dan Abdul Hadi Awang tidak boleh dilakukan lagi. Semuanya akan diiyakan bahkan menjadi tukang tambah pula terhadap kata-kata mereka itu.

Sudah banyak ustaz dan ulama yang menceburi diri dalam politik akhirnya musnah. Mereka yang sebelumnya dilihat memiliki ilmu tinggi tiba-tiba runtuh sebaik saja berada dalam politik dan setelah mendapat kuasa duniawi itu.


Tidak dapat lari kalau menyertai politik mereka kena bercakap bohong, kena menggunakan kaedah matlamat menghalalkan cara, kena berdolak dalih dan kena bersifat hipokrit. Tasbeh dan Quran hanya lambang saja bukan untuk diamalkan.

Bagi orang politik kalau tidak memiliki sifat itu tidak lengkap.

Saya mendoakan semoga Asri akan kekal dengan pendirian dan siasah yang diambilnya kini. Hari ini beliau diterima dan menjadi rujukan semua orang. Semua pihak menggunakan ilmunya, baik BN, Pas dan lain-lain. Semua parti sukakan atas keberaniannya. Beliau seorang ulama gantang yang progresif dan dinamik.


Mudah-mudahan Allah s.w.t. memberi kekukuhan iman kepada Asri untuk teguh dengan pendiriannya, menjadi ilmuan dan cendekiawan Islam yang senantiasa dirujuk oleh umat Islam. Beliau didoakan juga terus berani menegur dan memberi jalan-jalan pemikiran dan pegangan hidup baru yang progresif sesuai dengan Islam sebagai way of life. Pendirian dan peranaan beliau juga mudah-mudahan menjadi ikutan generasi rabbani yang baru! [wm.kl 8:00 05/08/07]

Wednesday, August 06, 2008

Imam who??

How much do we know the past Islamic scholars?

One of the many things that is largely missing in my life as a Muslim growing up in these modern times is the knowledge of past Islamic scholars. Till now I'm still guilty of being totally ignorant of many great Islamic scholars of the past though I have at least some knowledge of the profiles of popular figures in the world of politics, sports and entertainment industry.

I've also noticed this ignorance being prevalent among most Muslims in general. Once, I was watching a video on Hassan al-Banna and someone asked what was the video I was watching about. I replied its on Hassan al-Banna. The person said, puzzled "Hassan al-Banna? Who's THAT?!" And this, coming from a person with a religious background.


The most known Islamic scholar here is probably Imam asy-Syafi'i and an-Nawawi as the Muslim education in Singapore is based largely on the Syafi'e school of thought. And also the other three scholars of the four main schools of thought, Imam Abu Hanifah, Imam Malik and Imam Ahmad. But when the names of other great Islamic scholars are mentioned such as Adz-Dhahabi, Imam Ibn Taimiyyah, Ibn Katheer, Ibn Qayyim, most are clueless.

In fact, what spurred me to discover about some of the other Muslims scholars was sadly due to negative reasons. I had discovered some articles about Muslims dissing some Islamic scholars past and present suggesting and accusing them being out of the Islamic creed. And it got me thinking, is this true? These are Islamic scholars who dedicate their entire lives striving for the cause of Islam. How could they have been so wrong about their basic believes?


And alhamdulillah, after doing some research, I came to my own conclusion that there are some people out there who really have nothing to do but spread lies and judge unfairly on these Islamic scholars for their own thwarted agenda and not sincerely for the truth or cause of Islam. Worse, some are Muslims themselves.

I feel that so much can be done in the Islamic education system or among Muslims generally to learn the history and great achievements of past Islamic scholars. From their history, we can learn much about their lives, what happened during those periods, and lessons to learn from the actions of Muslims, positive or negative, during those times. From their lives and achievements, we will be inspired and look up to them as one of the many role models in our lives in addition to Prophet Muhammad(peace be upon him) and his most trusted companions.

It will not be easy to re-package the education of past Islamic scholars in a way that will generate widespread interest among the general mainstream Muslims though. The traditional way of educating history still, normally bores people. But it's something that is very important to have Muslims identify and realize the grace, beauty and greatness that Islam brings...when it is practiced properly as a way life.

p.s. --> check out Muslimheritage.com.

Friday, August 01, 2008

AskBabaAli "We're just Friends"

Catch more videos on AskBabaAli.com

Tuesday, July 08, 2008

Cabaran Muallaf/Mukallaf in Malaysia

Learn more about the challenges of Muslim reverts(Mukallaf) and those who are slowly learning Islam (Muallaf), from Malaysian Muslim, Lee Jooi Soon. Direct Link --> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6FiSF3Sim0

It's an eye opener to learn how Chinese are treated in Malaysia before and after they become Muslims. It's an important reminder for us all to break away from ignorance and to understand the problems that lie within our own Islamic community which doesn't portray Islamic values. And to improve the image and bad perceptions others may have towards Islam.



Wednesday, June 18, 2008

There Is Good in Every Event

For link on article..Click here!!

By Harun Yahya
Turkish Muslim Thinker


Every event that happens to the Muslim has one sort or another of goodness in it. Allah states that even events that seem to be unfavorable may have a lot of good in them:

[It may well be that you dislike something in which Allah has placed a lot of good.] (An-Nisaa' 4:19)

[It may be that you hate something when it is good for you and it may be that you love something when it is bad for you. Allah knows and you do not know.] (Al-Baqarah 2:216)

Aware of this secret, believers seek goodness and beauty in every event. No seemingly adverse incident, hardship, or mischief ails or worries them. They maintain their composure, whether the experience is insignificant or a serious ordeal. Sincere Muslims even see goodness and divine purpose in the loss of all their hard earned possessions. They express gratitude to Allah for the gift of life. They have faith that Allah may have protected them from committing an evil act or against too much attachment for possessions.

Accordingly, believers give their most inner thanks to Him because no loss in this world equals the loss in the hereafter. Loss in the hereafter means eternal and intolerable punishment (unless Allah wills otherwise). Those who keep themselves occupied with the remembrance of the hereafter view every event as goodness and beauty leading to the hereafter.

Those who overcome such ordeals will recognize their weaknesses before Allah and will reconsider how much they are in need of Him. They will turn to Allah with much humility through prayers and remembrance that will bring them closer to Him. This is surely an enormous benefit to their hereafter. These aside, by putting absolute trust in Allah and showing steadfastness, they will earn His pleasure and will be rewarded with eternal bliss.

People should seek goodness and beauty not only in ordeals, but also in daily routines. For example, burning the food one has painstakingly prepared may lead one to take numerous measures that would, by the will of Allah, prevent a more serious accident in the future. A young person might fail the college admission test on which all hopes for the future had been pinned.

People should, however, know that there is goodness in their failure, too; they should be able to think that Allah might have willed them to avoid some adverse circumstances or people and thereby feel pleased with the result. Alternatively, by thinking that Allah has placed in every event many other blessings that are either obvious or beyond the imagination, believers see the beauty of full submission to the guidance of Allah.

People may not always see the goodness and divine purpose behind every incident. Even if this is the case, they know for certain that there is goodness in all events. They offer prayers for Allah to discover the goodness and divine purpose hidden behind everything that happens.

Those who are aware that everything has a purpose in Allah's creation never use phrases such as "I wish I had not done this" or "I wish I had not said that" and so on. Mistakes, defects, or seemingly unfortunate events essentially include blessings, and each one of them is the trial of destiny. Allah gives important lessons and reminders to humans in the destiny He creates individually for each person.

For those who can evaluate with insight, there are no mistakes or adversities, but rather lessons, warnings, and wisdom from Allah. For example, a Muslim whose shop burns down will search his or her soul, and will become even more sincere and true in his or her faith, deeming it as a warning by Allah against overindulgence in worldly goods and attachments.

Consequently, no matter what one encounters in this life, the ordeals will all eventually end. A person who recalls a hardship will be amazed that it is nothing more than a reminiscence in the mind. This is also how people recall the scenes from a film. Accordingly, one day will come and the most painful experience will become only a memory, more like the image of a scene from a movie. Only one thing will remain — the attitude a person assumed during the time of hardship and whether Allah is pleased with him or her.

People will not be called to account for their experiences, but rather for their attitudes, thoughts, and sincerity they displayed at the time of these experiences. Therefore, endeavoring to see the goodness and the divine purpose Allah creates in the situations encountered and taking a positive attitude will bring bliss to believers both in this world and in the hereafter. No sorrow or fear awaits these believers who are aware of this secret. Similarly, no one, no event can create fear, harm, or distress in this world or in the hereafter. Allah reveals this secret in the Qur'an:

[Those who follow My guidance will feel no fear and will know no sorrow.] (Al-Baqarah 2:38)

[Yes, the closer servants of Allah will feel no fear nor shall they grieve: those who believe and have done their duty, there is good news for them in the life of the world and in the Hereafter. There is no changing the words of Allah. That is the great victory.] (Yunus 10:62-64)

- Harun Yahya was born in Ankara in 1956. He studied fine arts at Istanbul's Mimar Sinan University and philosophy at Istanbul University. Since the 1980s, he has published many books on political, faith-related, and scientific issues.

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Negative consequences of horror movies.

News report from utusan malaysia..taken from drmaza.com

Ia diakui oleh Mufti Perlis, Dr. Mohd. Asri Zainul Abidin yang turut menganggap ada antara filem hantu tidak menyumbang kepada pembentukan insan. Malah Islam sendiri tidak menerima apa-apa perkara yang boleh memperbodohkan masyarakat termasuk juga sesuatu pekara yang divisualkan dalam filem.

Lebih membahayakan apabila sesebuah filem seram itu ditonton oleh kanak-kanak yang sedang membesar kerana ia boleh mempengaruhi pemikiran mereka.

"Filem-filem seram yang keterlaluan adalah berbahaya kerana ia boleh menyumbang kepada penyelewengan akidah.

"Kepercayaan bukan-bukan seperti ada kuasa ghaib yang divisualkan dan hantu itu boleh mengetahui sesuatu perkara boleh menyebabkan masyarakat terpengaruh dan mempercayainya," kata Dr. Mohd. Asri ketika dihubungi Jumaat lalu.

Filem seperti ini kata beliau boleh merosakkan akal disebabkan unsur serta gambaran yang diperlihatkan mengenai makhluk halus itu adalah tidak benar.

Maka ujarnya, secara tidak langsung akan lahir masyarakat yang penakut apabila mereka terlalu dimomokkan dengan filem seperti itu.

"Kita bimbang filem itu mempengaruhi jiwa masyarakat yang akhirnya menyebabkan mereka akan takut walaupun hendak ke bilik air," katanya.

Bagaimanapun kata beliau, tidak salah untuk menghasilkan filem seram asalkan tidak diselitkan dengan unsur khurafat selain perlu menggambarkan syaitan itu lemah.

Dalam masa yang sama filem hantu yang dihasilkan juga perlu memberi kesan positif agar manusia tidak hilang keyakinan diri.

Mengambil contoh filem Zombie Kampung Pisang arahan Mamat Khalid, kata beliau, tema yang dibawa dalam filem tersebut tidak bercanggah kerana akhir cerita memperlihatkan makhluk halus itu tidak dapat menguasai manusia.

Sumber: Utusan Malaysia

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

What?! No BGR? (0.0)'

This is written to answer blog_surf's question at the chatbox.

BismilLahirRahmaanirRaheem.

Before that, there was once, when a friend asked me a similar question. She asked me about how she could have a relationship while ensuring that she doesn't go against Islamic principles. And this was my reply to her. .

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Salam ukhtie,

Its good that you've been aware and making the efforts to make yourself a better Muslim. I understand where you're coming from as I went through such a phase myself. It's been many years now since I made that first step to try to improve and I'm still learning every day and have to be constantly aware and stand firm to ward off temptations by the nafs or shaitan. Its not an easy transition.

Hm, I can't give you a solution.. You have to figure it out yourself through reading more about this, asking Islamic scholars, and to try understand, keeping an open mind and a strong will to learn and possibly change. At the same time, constantly supplicate(doa) and seek help from Allah SWT.

I will give my views on this though, through what I've learnt and understood.. but do not stop here, keep on reading and make your own decision.. I recommend articles and cyber counselor section from islamonline.net..there are many articles there on topics such as relationships based on Islam. Just type in a keyword in their search column. Also this article - islamic-world.net/boy_girl.php

Before this, I think there's a more important question that you have to consider. That question is "What is the purpose of Life?"

Do you know? Do I know the answer? I myself don't know but our purpose of life is already there before we're born.. Just hypothetically.. if we ask this monitor we're facing why is it made, if the monitor is able to speak, it will not know why it is here. Logically, we have to ask the factory which made it..and if we ask the factory, it will give a collection of questions and answers in a book called "Instruction Manual".

Its the same with us humans.. if we want to know the answer, we have to ask the God that creates us i.e. Allah SWT and Allah SWT have given us a complete set of questions and answers in His book called.. the Quran.

So what does the Quran says about our purpose of life?

"I created the jinn and humankind only that they might worship Me." - adh-Dhariat:56

So knowing this.. we have to know that the concept of worship towards Allah SWT in Islam is not just strictly through performing the pillars of Islam like solat, fasting and zakat.

We have to understand that whatever we do and how we perform in our daily life (our actions, deeds, work, character, outlook) that meets the criteria of Islam that have been set in al-Quran and as-Sunnah.. that is the concept of worship! (ref. from an article at saifulislam.com)

So if you can agree to what have been explained here, then even in relationships and interactions with the opposite sex, we have to follow the guidelines that have been set for us. It's totally alien to what we have been used to, growing up in a secular life with all the influences from movies, friends and surroundings.. and it won't be easy to try and follow. But thats the safest and the best way.

Thats all I've to say. As I've said, continue to read and figure out for yourself, ask more from other sisters and Islamic scholars about this.. insya-Allah..He will show you the way.

Wassalaam.

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It's important firstly to ask ourselves what is our purpose here? As Muslims, what is our true goal in life?

Now back to the question about how are we going to meet the other half..

As you have already read, that Islam recognises feelings and needs between a guy and girl but disciplines it by allowing it to be expressed only after marriage.

Which means that ideally, the only time a Muslim should even think of searching for the other half is when he/she is ready for marriage and have made concrete plans to get married within a short term period.

Some examples upon approaching marriage the Islamic way are as follows; searching and finding a wife (or what Malays call 'merisik') is performed through a third party, meeting to get to know more about each other is allowed but only in the presence of family members and during the engagement period, contact is allowed but the engaged couple should always keep in mind not to overdo it and transgress the limits.

As you'd notice, Islam permits interactions as long as it is done in a respectful manner and doesn't transgress the limits set in Islam.

The Islamic concept of marriage, what happens before and during the engagement is totally different from the horrifying idea of fixed marriages that some may suggest or assume; being forced to marry, not being able to make your own choice, not able to choose your own partner or even not knowing the other half at all!

There are a lot of misconceptions in Islam mainly due to ignorance and the only way to break away from it is to sincerely research on it, keeping an open mind. Only then will we know and be sure of the choices we make in life.

Just to add also that if anyone is already involved in a relationship and have realized that there should be no relationships before marriage, try not to go to extremes by immediately breaking it off. Think about the possibility of taking the relationship towards marriage as soon as possible.

I hope that this will help to lead to the answers you're looking for. And Allah Almighty knows best.

Saturday, May 10, 2008

Wake up!

I have posted this before in the form of a YouTube video but when I reviewed the previous post recently, found out that the video had been removed for terms of violation. Since I like the post so much, I've decided to repost it in the form of a written statement.

Why the removal of the video? Only Allah knows why.. Hm, maybe some Arabs' pride may be hurt due to it but it's a true reflection of reality in the Arab world and for me, it is a wake up call. They should take the criticism seriously and do something about it. And other Muslims could take this as a reminder and as a motivation factor to spur ourselves to be better.

For now, the video can be found on MEMRITV.org:type 645 into search

Anyway just for your info, MEMRI is a pro-Israeli Middle Eastern press monitoring organization. Their work has been attacked on three grounds: that their work is biased; that they choose articles to translate selectively so as to give an unrepresentative view of the media they are reporting on; and that their translations are sometimes inaccurate.

Brian Whitaker, the Middle East editor for the Guardian newspaper in the United Kingdom, has been one of the most outspoken critics of MEMRI, writing: "My problem with Memri is that it poses as a research institute when it's basically a propaganda operation," and that "the stories selected by Memri for translation follow a familiar pattern: either they reflect badly on the character of Arabs or they in some way further the political agenda of Israel."

Go Wiki it for more information on this. Anyway, here's the said speech..

The following are excerpts from a Friday sermon on Qatar TV by Sheikh Dr. Yusuf Al-Qaradhawi :

Dr. Yusuf Al-Qaradhawi: We use trains and planes, but they are not our trains or planes. The (Westerners) manufacture them and export them to us. True, we can buy the most magnificent things in the world products for our homes and for ourselves. Our people can buy the most luxurious cars, Rolls-Royce or Mercedes 500 or 700, models S, M, and L with all the luxuries. We own them, but we don’t manufacture them. We don’t even produce a single nail in any of these cars. Others do this for us.

The income of the entire Arab world, including the oil-producing countries, does not reach the that of a European country, such as Spain. Spain!? let alone Germany, France, Britain, or Italy. Just Spain, which is at the bottom of the list of industrial countries… The income of the entire Arab world does not reach it. How come? Because we don’t work, and if we do work, we don’t do it professionally.

They conducted a survey of the average time that a government employee spends working in a certain Arab country. The average was 27 minutes a day. 27 minutes! The rest of the time he drinks coffee, reads newspapers, and goes on errands here and there. Only a small number of people work. The rest do not.

In the mid 1970s I went to Germany. We arrived during in the morning. I asked the guy who took me from the airport to the convention hall. As I was passing through the empty streets, I asked him how come the streets were not busy, like in our countries. He said: “People are at work.” After 7 p.m. he took me back to the hotel, and the streets were empty. I said to him: “What’s going on, the streets are empty again.” He said: people are back home from work, and they are exhausted. All they want is to eat their dinner, watch the news, and then go to bed, because early next morning they have to wake up for hard work. They commute more than an hour to work and back, and spend an hour at lunch. They work non-stop.

We are a nation that doesn’t work. How can we develop if we don’t work? When we do work, we don’t do it professionally. We keep saying “Don’t worry, later, later!” Islam teaches us to do things professionally. Doing things professionally is a religious duty. The Prophet said that Allah ordered to excel in everything. He imposed excellence and professionalism. Professionalism must be followed in everything. “If you kill, do it properly, and if you slaughter, do it properly.” Even when killing, you must do well.

Unfortunately, we do not excel in either military or civil industries. We import everything from needles to missiles. This is our nation. We still haven’t manufactured an engine in our Arab countries. We assemble parts, but have no manufacturing industries. India has manufactured a car, and even a plane, while we still go around in circles like a bull in who turns a grinding mill or a water weal until it reaches exactly where it started.

How come the Zionist gang has managed to be superior to us, despite being so few? It has become superior through knowledge, through technology, and through strength. It has become superior to us through work. We had the desert before our eyes but we didn’t do anything with it. When they took over, they turned it into a green oasis. "How can a nation that does not work progress? How can it grow?